Pause.

We sit silently and watch the world around us. This has taken a lifetime to learn. It seems only the old are able to sit next to one another and not say anything and still feel content. The young, brash and impatient, must always break the silence. It is a waste, for silence is pure. Silence is holy. It draws people together because only those who are comfortable with each other can sit without speaking. This is the great paradox.”

Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

Sometimes, when everything seems overflowing: joy, happiness, remorse or grief; When these emotions seems to swallow ourselves and distracts us from thinking straightly, pause. Give yourself a break. A cup of coffee in the corner table. A date with your dog. A time in your nook. Never be afraid to spend a little time dating yourself because sometimes, being alone gives you time to grasp who you really are, to go back to your roots, to observe and to appreciate.

Just a snap out of my brain

Inquiry.
Learn to ask the right questions to get the right answers.

Time.
What makes life exciting is because change is inevitable. Time is constantly moving. We may choose to give our best shot at the moment or just let the moment pass. Whatever it is, a failure, a regret or a triumph, it will pass and if time is good enough to give us another chance, we may repeat it again this time reversing the failure, the regret or the triumph. We never know.

Tamed.

You become responsible forever for what you have tamed.

This is one of my favorite quotes from the book "The Little Prince." While grooming my dog on a Sunday afternoon yesterday, this quote popped out of my head. Why? I also asked that to myself ( funny isn't it? ). Thinking why, I flashback to what I'm doing during that time: My dog gazes me straightly with her puppy eyes, loving how I wash her hair while me, I'm talking to her haha, saying sorry for not being able to groom her for the past few weeks. Then I told her that I'm busy with work and during the weekends I have other errands. Then ( eureka! ) this quote popped out of my head. 

I realized, my problem is that I commit and commit to things that I almost forgot to savour every moment with these things. I just want to do more and at the end of the day, for having to meet all those commitments, my thinking is just to meet them but not savour them, with all those wants, at the end of the day I am dead tired and I have no spare time to think of the feeling when I'm on that moment, even to jot it down to my diary. I said to myself "You become responsible forever for what you have tamed." Do one thing at a time, savour it, do it repeatedly until you mastered it. Applying it to my pet, I am responsible for her, I should try to know more about her, about dogs, to allot time for her every weekend, and savour the moments we have during those commited time. After that, do the next commitment and apply the principle again. Living like that maybe called a slow lifestyle compared to what the world requires now, but for me, those are things that requires the investment of time, and having able to focus yourself on one thing at a time makes it more fulfilling and precious.